For the past week or so, we’ve watched the drama unfold in the very public breakup between Kourtney Kardashian and Scott Disick. If you’re a fan or hate watcher of Keeping up with the Kardashians and the various spinoffs, you’re probably aware of the rocky road that has been their relationship. While they have definitely experienced their fair share of ups and downs, it always seemed like they were able to work it out. Well this week, pictures surfaced of him and his ex getting cozy in Monte Carlo and apparently this was the last straw for Kourtney and she ended the relationship.
Now our lives are probably not as public as that of any of the Kardashians, but that doesn’t mean that we are not susceptible to a pretty public breakup. While they would not likely discuss the details of you and your ex on E! News, details of your breakup could very well end up shared across Facebook and Twitter. Should you find yourself in a public breakup, here are some things to consider:
1. Do your best not to react online. I know that this can be very difficult, especially if your ex has taken the route of making rude or disparaging comments about you online. Of course you feel the need to defend yourself and tell your side of the story, but what’s that Mark Twain quote? “Never argue with a fool, onlookers may not be able to tell the difference.” Apply that to this situation! You are already struggling with the pain of the loss, no need to add fuel to the fire. This includes posting subtweets and vague memes. Just because you don’t call your ex by name doesn’t mean that your audiences can’t tell what’s happening.
2. Take a social media break. In the midst of a public breakup, it may be best to disconnect from social media altogether. Of course it will be tempting to keep up with what is being said but it is likely that keeping up with what everyone is saying will only lead you to feeling angrier and more disappointed. It will also be much harder to keep yourself from jumping in with a rebuttal if you’re constantly tracking what’s being said.
3. Ask your friends and family to stay out of it. If your team is anything like mine, they are ready, willing, and able to do anything if they think it will help you feel better. This might include feeling the need to fight online battles on your behalf. Not only will this make a bad situation worse, your friend will likely feel tempted to tell you what they did/said. If your friends mention that they will get involved in any online drama being caused by your ex, thank them for their love and support and then ask that they stay out of it. Additionally, let your circle know that you are not interested in a play by play of what’s happening online as this does not help you with tips #1 and #2.
Going through any type of breakup is difficult but it may be even more painful when it’s happening in public. Hopefully these tips will help to soften the blow.
Are there any other tips you would add to the list? Share them with us in the comments.